Is your child spoiled?
If so, it is because you have trained him/her to be spoiled. You have handicapped a
perfectly lovely child. You are not doing your children a favor by spoiling them when they do not deserve it. Rewarding them for good actions is not spoiling them. Your job as a parent is to prepare your children to live in the real world as adults in civilized society once they become of age. The first skills we need to learn in order to be able to live on our own are called “respect and good manners.” These are not the only skills needed, but they are the first skills needed. Children with good manners have more friends, are happier, and are invited to nice places.
Once a child learns to base his core values on respect for self and others,
your child will automatically develop common sense, good self-esteem, and a back bone. Respect and Good Manners will automatically help a child deal with bullies,
rude and selfish people. When one is fortunate enough to begin life living with people who have good manners, one will always feel confident. Good manners have nothing to do with how much money one has or does not have. Every home should be a place where one can feel safe, respected and loved. When a child feels respected, they can accomplish anything they are willing to work for. The one thing that made America the greatest nation on Earth was our common bond as honest, hard working, civilized, law abiding citizens working together for the good of all. We all want to be treated with respect. We all want to be around someone we can trust who has our back.
“A Year of Good Manners” by Margery Sinclair and Jan Polk provides 365 common,
every day courtesy tips and the reason to use each one. When the reasons change,
the rules change. In the meantime, our goal as civilized citizens is to treat each other with respect. It is not being phony to be polite to someone you do not like….it is called civilized behavior and it is our civic duty to behave as honorable, civilized citizens.
Milwaukee Etiquette Consultant/Coach Margery Sinclair uses a very humorous style when writing very important information that can be easily understood, enjoyed and used. Margery explains what you can do rather than what not to do.
Jan Polk’s Great American Flower Collection “respect series” floral images are beautiful to look at as well as reminders to treat yourself and others with respect.
“It is easy to hold yourself to a higher standard when you know how.” says Jan Polk.
Margery Sinclair’s motto: “Good Manners are Good Business.”
Purchase your copy on line at www.janpolk.com, $27.95 Free Shipping Five cents handling fee.
Read some of the tips at www.ayearofgoodmanners.com and
www.margerysinclair.com
P.S. If you were not fortunate enough to have a parent teach you this information,
you will find this book perfect for you. It is never too late to learn to become an
honorable, civilized, law abiding citizen. We need you. When you know what to expect from life and what life expects from you, you won't need drugs to escape.
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Friday, February 11, 2011
Egypt is Free!! Mubarak steps down.
Egypt is Free!!! Celebrations begin.
After 18 days of peaceful demonstrations by Egyptian
citizens of all ages, education levels, and socioeconomic levels,
Egypt is free. On Friday, February 11, 2011
President Hosni Mubarak steps down as President
since 1981.
Honorable civilized people of all countries want to be
treated with respect. It is our common bond as
human beings. Honorable people must stick together.
Freedom is not free. These people were willing to put
their life on the line, and some did lose their lives,
in order for all Egyptian people to be free of tyranny.
Our prayers are with the Egyptian people and all
honorable, civilized, law abiding citizens.
Makes you wonder why beautiful, healthy, young
Americans will “party and do drugs” until they can
no longer remember what they did the night before
…..and they call that fun. It is disrespectful and
disgraceful to themselves, their friends, and especially to
their families not to mention disgraceful and detrimental
to our Country. Lack of respect for the rule of law is the
reason we have a multi-billion dollar drug problem in the USA.
Freedom means freedom from tyranny, the opportunity
to work for honest wages, and the opportunity to be
the best person you can be….. and not at the expense
of someone else.
Egypt is free from tyranny but now the work
begins to rebuild their country.
Money is not always the solution to all
problems. Honorable, civilized citizens
are the answer along with unity, honor,
civility and respect for all.
No matter what country we live in, we each
have a civic duty to hold ourselves to a higher
standard.
After 18 days of peaceful demonstrations by Egyptian
citizens of all ages, education levels, and socioeconomic levels,
Egypt is free. On Friday, February 11, 2011
President Hosni Mubarak steps down as President
since 1981.
Honorable civilized people of all countries want to be
treated with respect. It is our common bond as
human beings. Honorable people must stick together.
Freedom is not free. These people were willing to put
their life on the line, and some did lose their lives,
in order for all Egyptian people to be free of tyranny.
Our prayers are with the Egyptian people and all
honorable, civilized, law abiding citizens.
Makes you wonder why beautiful, healthy, young
Americans will “party and do drugs” until they can
no longer remember what they did the night before
…..and they call that fun. It is disrespectful and
disgraceful to themselves, their friends, and especially to
their families not to mention disgraceful and detrimental
to our Country. Lack of respect for the rule of law is the
reason we have a multi-billion dollar drug problem in the USA.
Freedom means freedom from tyranny, the opportunity
to work for honest wages, and the opportunity to be
the best person you can be….. and not at the expense
of someone else.
Egypt is free from tyranny but now the work
begins to rebuild their country.
Money is not always the solution to all
problems. Honorable, civilized citizens
are the answer along with unity, honor,
civility and respect for all.
No matter what country we live in, we each
have a civic duty to hold ourselves to a higher
standard.
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Solution to Bullying
Thirteen year old bullied by 7 teens.
Seven teens arrested for bullying teen in Philadelphia suburb; abuse is shown
in the following You Tube video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pg0ixG4XFlk
Not only are the actions in the video offensive, the comments from
viewers are laced with offensive language and some don’t even
know how to spell.
The whole point of freedom is that it applies to all in the United States of America--Not just the people you like. Everyone has a civic duty to be respectful to each other regardless of your age. The way you dress, the way you speak should show respect to yourself and to others. One should take pride in one’s family name and in one’s own actions. Somewhere along the last few generations, standards of decency have been discarded. Teens are frantically searching for their boundaries and are finding none. No wonder they are self destructing. How can you think outside the box if you don’t even know where it is?
Bullying is another example of how democracy only works when the majority of its people are honorable, civilized, law abiding citizens. Only one adult woman was brave enough or cared enough to confront a group of 7 teens aged 13 to 17 who were bullying a 13 year old teen. Congratulations and thank you to this yet unnamed woman. She is a hero and the backbone of America.
My guess is these teens don’t know how to behave as civilized citizens. And worse
yet, adults don’t expect them to behave as civilized citizens until they are old enough to get off of their parents' insurance coverage…now age 26. Then they wonder why their offspring do not behave properly when they become of age. This is worse than SAD. The other sad part is adults expect children to know this information without teaching them how to behave as civilized citizens. Teaching
manners is the job of parents. It should then be reinforced by examples seen
at school and any other public place adults and children are together. We are
all role models whether we like it or not.
I think their punishment should be one by one each teen should stand on a gym stage
and read this entire book, “A Year of Good Manners” by Margery Sinclair and Jan Polk, aloud over a microphone. All kids in detention should be sitting in the
audience and hearing this information over and over. They must each take a
turn and read the entire book aloud. The only way to get out of detention is
to take your turn in reading aloud and to pass a test covering the material in the
book: 365 common, every day courtesy tips and the reasons to use each one.
These tips apply equally to men, women, and children, all ages, colors, all socioeconomic levels, and all religious or political affiliations. It would also be nice for any student who wants to, to sit in the audience and watch the bullies speak.
The results will be these teens will gain information and experience in working with a microphone and speaking to a public audience (future job skills). Their diction will eventually improve just by doing/speaking and learning to pronounce the words without slurring or mumbling (another job skill learned). No gum while speaking (another social skill learned). They will learn how to recognize when someone is treating them with respect. They will learn how to show respect to others. They will develop a backbone, common sense, and good self esteem just by knowing this information.
All who hear this information will learn they, too, are a valuable person and how they can contribute to a better world. They will learn to base their self esteem on core values which will make them an honorable, trustworthy, civilized person regardless of their skin color, the amount of money they have or don’t have, or even on their looks. It is easy to hold yourself to a higher standard when you
know how. Someone will always have more money and “pretty” fades over time.
Honorable, civilized core values will last you a life time.
"A Year of Good Manners" by Margery Sinclair and Jan Polk, $27.95
will be the best investment you can make for your family and your
children. It is available on line at www.janpolk.com
Seven teens arrested for bullying teen in Philadelphia suburb; abuse is shown
in the following You Tube video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pg0ixG4XFlk
Not only are the actions in the video offensive, the comments from
viewers are laced with offensive language and some don’t even
know how to spell.
The whole point of freedom is that it applies to all in the United States of America--Not just the people you like. Everyone has a civic duty to be respectful to each other regardless of your age. The way you dress, the way you speak should show respect to yourself and to others. One should take pride in one’s family name and in one’s own actions. Somewhere along the last few generations, standards of decency have been discarded. Teens are frantically searching for their boundaries and are finding none. No wonder they are self destructing. How can you think outside the box if you don’t even know where it is?
Bullying is another example of how democracy only works when the majority of its people are honorable, civilized, law abiding citizens. Only one adult woman was brave enough or cared enough to confront a group of 7 teens aged 13 to 17 who were bullying a 13 year old teen. Congratulations and thank you to this yet unnamed woman. She is a hero and the backbone of America.
My guess is these teens don’t know how to behave as civilized citizens. And worse
yet, adults don’t expect them to behave as civilized citizens until they are old enough to get off of their parents' insurance coverage…now age 26. Then they wonder why their offspring do not behave properly when they become of age. This is worse than SAD. The other sad part is adults expect children to know this information without teaching them how to behave as civilized citizens. Teaching
manners is the job of parents. It should then be reinforced by examples seen
at school and any other public place adults and children are together. We are
all role models whether we like it or not.
I think their punishment should be one by one each teen should stand on a gym stage
and read this entire book, “A Year of Good Manners” by Margery Sinclair and Jan Polk, aloud over a microphone. All kids in detention should be sitting in the
audience and hearing this information over and over. They must each take a
turn and read the entire book aloud. The only way to get out of detention is
to take your turn in reading aloud and to pass a test covering the material in the
book: 365 common, every day courtesy tips and the reasons to use each one.
These tips apply equally to men, women, and children, all ages, colors, all socioeconomic levels, and all religious or political affiliations. It would also be nice for any student who wants to, to sit in the audience and watch the bullies speak.
The results will be these teens will gain information and experience in working with a microphone and speaking to a public audience (future job skills). Their diction will eventually improve just by doing/speaking and learning to pronounce the words without slurring or mumbling (another job skill learned). No gum while speaking (another social skill learned). They will learn how to recognize when someone is treating them with respect. They will learn how to show respect to others. They will develop a backbone, common sense, and good self esteem just by knowing this information.
All who hear this information will learn they, too, are a valuable person and how they can contribute to a better world. They will learn to base their self esteem on core values which will make them an honorable, trustworthy, civilized person regardless of their skin color, the amount of money they have or don’t have, or even on their looks. It is easy to hold yourself to a higher standard when you
know how. Someone will always have more money and “pretty” fades over time.
Honorable, civilized core values will last you a life time.
"A Year of Good Manners" by Margery Sinclair and Jan Polk, $27.95
will be the best investment you can make for your family and your
children. It is available on line at www.janpolk.com
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