Monday, August 29, 2011

Offensive Language

Foul language is meant to be offensive and it is just that
...offensive and a verbal assault to those who are exposed to it.
Have you ever noticed, when reading comments to various posts on
websites, that people who cannot speak without using foul
language seem to be very angry. It also appears they have a very
limited vocabulary indicating a lack of skills in other areas as well.
They cannot possibly feel part of the mainstream and that contributes
to their anger and they don't know why. Lose the foul language and
see how much your life changes. We each give ourselves permission
to behave the way we do. Give yourself permission to lose the foul language.

Civilized people will not call you out about your foul language,
but we do not like it. No matter how much money you have or
do not have, foul language is unacceptable, disrespectful, and
uncivilized behavior.

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offers 365 etiquette tips and the reasons to use them. The tips,
written by Margery Sinclair offers tips on what you can do rather
than telling you what not to do. You may even become charming,
confident, and well liked just by reading these tips.

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Thursday, August 18, 2011

Mayor Nutter speaks out against violent flash mobs of Philly Teens on the attack!

Bravo to Mayor Nutter of Philadelphia. Finally, a black leader speaks out against violent hooligans and flash mobs of teens who have no respect for self or others.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qoxQbnVx4TU&feature=related

Honorable, civilized, law abiding citizens come in all colors, shapes, sizes, ages, health, wealth, education, religious and political affiliations. Uncivilized behavior has nothing to do with genes. It is all about teaching respect and good manners.

The whole point of living in a civilized society is to show respect to self and others. We each benefit as a whole when large numbers of people live in close quarters such as cities and towns. The more uncivilized and illegal behavior we tolerate, the more freedoms we give up.

It is easy to recognize that these lawless young people are looking for boundaries. Children feel safe and comfortable when they are taught the boundaries of civilized behavior. Children crave the affection of both a mother and a father. All adults are role models whether you like it or not. There is no opting out. You are either a good role model or a bad role model. Consequences for bad behavior are important in order for a young person to understand the importance of behaving in a civilized manner. We do them no favor by not holding them accountable for their own actions.

Children want to be treated with respect just as each of us wants to be treated with respect. It is our common bond. Respect and Good Manners must be taught. We are not born with this information. Those who are not lucky enough to have two loving parents teach them respect and good manners, still have a personal responsibility and civic duty to learn how to be an honorable, civilized, law abiding citizen. Poverty does not have to be mean, violent, and uncivilized. It can only be changed by the people living in poverty. It is a personal decision by each member of society to willingly hold themselves to a higher standard. Every freedom that you can name exists because honorable, civilized, law abiding citizens take personal responsibility for their own actions.

Respect and Good Manners cannot be mandated by government; it comes from willing, honorable, civilized, law abiding citizens who then elect our own government officials from among ourselves. The more honorable We The People are, the better our government will be and the less government we will need.

Confidence, good self esteem, and common sense are by products of knowing Respect and Good Manners. The ability to make good decisions comes from knowing respect and good manners. These traits cannot be given to anyone. They come from within and are the result of knowledge and action. Teaching social skills is an obligation of parents, teachers and managers; however, it is bad manners for the rest of us to go around correcting other people’s bad manners.

Respect and Good Manners are the first tools one needs to learn in order to succeed in family, school, social and business situations...not the last tools to learn after you have acquired an education and wealth. The sooner they are learned, the easier it becomes to learn additional skills necessary to become an honorable, independent, civilized, law abiding citizen.

Good Manners are powerful and will last a lifetime. What you learn as a child will stay with you for the rest of your life. As a nation, we need to place more value on an honorable, civilized, law abiding citizen than we do on looks and money alone. We are all born with good character, until we decide to give it up.

Honorable, civilized, law abiding citizens are the backbone of our country. We are the eyes and ears of America. We are always there on the spot in any disaster and we know how to take charge and work together until the government officials arrive to pick up the pieces.

You cannot teach something you do not know. We invite you to read “A Year of Good Manners” by Margery Sinclair and Jan Polk, $27.95, which features 365 common, every day courtesies written by Margery Sinclair and the reasons to use each one. AYOGM also features Jan Polk’s Great American Flower Collection “respect series” images which are reminders to treat yourself and others with respect. This 180 page book is easy to read and understand. The information applies to all citizens.

In addition to a carefree, happy childhood, children are also little people in training to become honorable, civilized, law abiding adults. They learn by observing their parents and other adults. By age 8, children are expected to have table manners as good as or sometimes better than their parents. It helps to know what is expected of you and why.

It helps to know where your boundaries are at an early age. Learning to “maintain composure when displeased" (no yelling) is a very valuable social skill to own and is expected from all adults.

AYOGM Tip by Margery Sinclair: “Etiquette also has a visual component. People notice your clothes first (now that you have removed the ring from your eyebrow). Whether it is your personal appearance or a table setting, making the effort to be attractive is a compliment to others.” How you dress shows respect to yourself and to others.

Margery Sinclair provides a reason for each tip. When the reasons change, it is time for the rule to change. No matter how much technology changes and evolves, showing respect and behaving in a civilized manner will always come first in a civilized society.

AYOGM Tip by Margery Sinclair: “Good manners are the great equalizer. They apply to everyone, are free and available to all. They are the opposite of being elitist, arbitrary, and artificial. When society refuses to obey the practical rules of etiquette that govern behavior, rudeness, thoughtlessness will prevail. Every problem of the world could be, or could have been, solved on the level of etiquette before descending to lawsuits or wars.”

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Wednesday, August 10, 2011

You do have Power. You have the final say in how you behave....good or bad.

Respect and Good Manners are Powerful! Think about it.......every problem is directly related to uncivilized behavior and lack of respect for self, others, and the laws of the land. If the laws do not apply to everyone, change them. Jails would get smaller, police departments and justice departments would shrink, illegal drug use would decline and illegal drug cartels would no longer have a reason to exist, bullying would disappear, spouse abuse would decline, murder rates would drop, road rage would decline.

Parents have a civic duty and an obligation to teach respect and good manners to their children. You cannot teach something you do not know. Slavery of any kind is no longer legal in the USA. No one is allowed to own another person in the USA. We have a civic duty and obligations to take care of ourselves and one another, but we do not own another person. Stand up for your rights. If people do not treat you with respect, do not allow them the privilege of being in your life.

One AYOGM tip by Margery Sinclair: “Maintain composure when displeased.”
You will want to read all 365 tips. Purchase your copy here: http://www.ayearofgoodmanners.com

We do not need bigger and bigger government. We need more honorable, civilized, law abiding citizens. The more freedoms we are willing to give up in order to have the government take care of us, the more dependent and enslaved we become. Dependant people are not free. Beware of those who unjustly attack others for any reason and those who pit one group of people against another. In the United States of America, we must strive to stand united for the good of all honorable, civilized,
law abiding citizens. United We Stand – Divide We Fall.

Quote by John Polk
“If you take care of your family, your business, and you do what
is right and honorable, everything else will take care of itself.”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQfGxI0_9I4&NR=1

Respect and Good Manners equal Freedom and must begin in each home.



Thursday, August 4, 2011

Happy 50th Birthday to President Barack Obama

Everyone may not like President Obama’s
Socialist policies and redistributing the wealth
but we all have to recognize that he has the
“likability factor,” confidence, good self esteem,
and good manners. President Obama has
many qualities to be admired.

He has proven that forever more, skin color is no longer
a barrier to success in the United States of America.
He will be the first President to raise a
billion dollars in donations so that he can run for
a job that only pays $400,000. President Obama
is articulate, well dressed, and a wonderful role
model as a husband and father. He has proven that
you can like someone and still civilly disagree with
them for reasons other than skin color.

He is to be admired for being married
to the mother of his children and living with them.
He is to be admired for being a father who loves and
takes care of his children and provides for his family.
As parents, they both stress to their children that
education is important.

AYOGM Tip by Margery Sinclair: “Never discount
the “likability factor.” When people like you,
partly because of your good manners, they are
more likely to give you a break in other areas.
A likable person can be charmingly eccentric;
an unlikeable person just seems weird.”

You will want to read all 365 tips and the reasons to
use them in “A Year of Good Manners” by Margery Sinclair
and Jan Polk, $27.95.
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Honorable Politicians

Honorable citizens will not lie, cheat or steal, even when the opportunity presents itself.

We elect our politicians from among ourselves. We cannot expect more of them than we expect of ourselves.

Respect and Good Manners empower you to develop common sense, good self esteem, and
the ability to make good decisions.

Know your politicians and elect honorable, civilized, law abiding citizens who
keep their word and can be trusted. That is all a civilized society expects from each of our citizens.

Congratulations to John Polk who just won the Mississippi District 44 State Senate Primary. He never once attacked his opponent. Instead John's message was what he will do in office and promised to do what is right and honorable for all Mississippi citizens. We hope other politicians follow suit. It doesn't matter what party you belong to if you are an honorable, civilized, law abiding citizen.
Honorable people know how to work together.

My favorite Quote by John Polk

“If you take care of your family, your business, and you do what
is right and honorable, everything else will take care of itself.”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQfGxI0_9I4&NR=1

If you are not one of the fortunate citizens to have parents teach you respect
and good manners , you can teach yourself by reading
"A Year of Good Manners" by Margery Sinclair and Jan Polk, $27.95
Margery writes 365 common, every day courtesies and the reason to use each tip.
You will want to know even more after you read our 180 page book. It is easy to hold yourself to a higher standard when you know how.

Available for purchase at www.ayearofgoodmanners.com

Children often learn respect and manners just by watching their parents actions as well as listening to their words.....take a good look at your children....are they mirroring your behaviors? good or bad?





Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Debt Ceiling Agreement Reached - No One Happy

Debt ceilings are intended to be limits set to protect us
from bankruptcy....they are not intended to be goals to
reached and exceed over and over. Otherwise, why
have a debt ceiling? Simple math says you cannot
spend money you do not have to pay for debt you
cannot afford. Our constitution also guarantees that
the government cannot unreasonably tax us for money
we legally earned just because they want to spend more
money.

Respect and Good Manners empower you with knowledge
that allows you to develop good self esteem, common sense,
and the ability to make confident decisions on your own and
to recognize good decisions by others. Good Manners and
respect enable you to work with others whether you like them
or not. Our common bond is we all want to be treated with
respect and we all have to work together for the benefit of our
country and all of our citizens, not just one favorite party.

AYOGM Tip by Margery Sinclair: “People with good
manners have a lifetime advantage in job situations and
personal relationships. Most negotiations are impossible
without good manners on both sides. That explains why
diplomats are famed for their courtesy.”

AYOGM Tip by Margery Sinclair: “A knowledge of
etiquette is the road to good manners. Behave decently to
others, show consideration when there is conflict, and
maintain composure when displeased. Knowing etiquette
makes you feel relaxed and confident.”

Beware of any one, or any group, for any reason who does
not respect you or fellow law abiding citizens...which
includes all men, women, and children of all ages, races,
nationalities, wealth, health or education levels. Beware of
those who pit one part of our country against another.
When freedoms are taken from one group, they will soon
be taken from the other group. Do not be so willing to give
up your freedoms in order to be taken care of by the
government. Bigger government is not the answer.
Independent, honorable, civilized, law abiding citizens are
the answers.

Without laws we would have no protection from those who
chose to not behave in a civilized manner. The government
cannot make a law for every possible transgression; therefore,
we depend on our citizens to willingly hold themselves to a
higher standard by using respect and good manners towards
each other. Without respect and manners we would become a
land of the uncivilized. You would not like it. Only the meanest
and strongest would survive. Very few would have any rights.
We would not be safe in our own homes without laws to protect
us; however, it is not the laws that protect us..... it is the
honorable, civilized, law abiding citizens who respect and honor
the laws of the land that make us safe. Criminals do not care
about the laws. If the laws are not fair to all, we must change
the laws; until then, we abide by the laws.
We must be strong enough to protect ourselves until help arrives.
We must be willing to stand united as civilized citizens. We
cannot be passive and dependent on someone else, or the
government, to take care of us. You are not free if you cannot
stand on your own.

In 2011, our country is split almost 50 – 50. Fifty percent
of the population is dependent on the government and pay no taxes....
they basically are slaves and have willingly given up too many
hard fought freedoms. When you are dependent on the
government or any one, you are not free.

Fifty percent of the population works hard and are honorable,
civilized, law abiding citizens who pay taxes on legally, hard
earned income. We are all citizens of the United States of
America and must be civil and work together.
United We Stand – Divided We Fall.

Beware of those who attack half of our country and try to divide
us. It matters not which side you are on. It matters that we all
work together for the benefit of all, not just one group or another.
What is good for one, should be good for all. Vote for honorable
leaders who try to unite us as a country, not those who want to
divide us.

We The People, USA citizens, have power and do not use it. If
you do not like the wealthy getting wealthy, do not buy their
products. Start your own business or support a local business
or a local farmer. Work together as groups. Large quantities are
cheaper than smaller quantities. You do not have the right to take
away something from someone else who has worked hard for their
legal income.

If you expect others to follow higher standards, such as safe food,
safe drinking water, safe cars, safe planes, safely built buildings,
etc. you should also expect the same high standards from yourself.
We all have a civic duty to behave in a civilized manner. Being an
honorable, civilized, law abiding citizen is all that we expect of
each of our citizens. Holding yourself to a higher standard is easy when
you know how. It has nothing to do with how much money you have
or do not have. Good Character begets Good Self Esteem which
equals honorable, civilized, law abiding citizens. You can have a lot
of money and still not be a person of honorable character. If you
ignore the laws and use illegal drugs, you are the one empowering
the drug dealers....not an honorable thing to do!

We each have a civic duty to treat our self and others with respect.
Do not allow any one to enslave you or abuse you.

My favorite quote by John Polk:
“If you take care of your family, your business, and you do what
is right and honorable, everything else will take care of itself.”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQfGxI0_9I4&NR=1


Our country can recover from a deficit in cash. We cannot
recover from a deficit of honorable, civilized, law abiding
citizens.

Good Manners are powerful. Read our 180 page book
“A Year of Good Manners” by Margery Sinclair and Jan Polk.
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